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Women In-Depth: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women

Listen in as therapists, coaches, writers, and other experts explore the inner lives of women: their struggles, fears, hopes, & dreams. This podcast is about cultivating a conversation around the uncomfortable, uncertain, and unknown aspects of a woman's experience. Through interviews and stories, Lourdes Viado, PhD, MFT goes beneath the surface and takes a deeper look at relationships, motherhood, self-acceptance, authenticity, aging, healing, suffering, loss, and other areas connected to the emotional and psychological well-being of women. We will be cultivating conversation around the entire experience of being a woman, with all its different aspects.
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Jul 20, 2020

 “As long as the factors that led your child to create distance remain in place, he or she will not be able to settle into an easy, relaxed, loving, and close relationship with you.”

“What you do in response to estrangement very much matters and can make the difference between a prolonged estrangement and a healed one.”

When children grow into adults, the nature of the parent-child relationship changes as well.

On this episode, I talk with Tina Gilbertson, psychotherapist and author of Reconnecting with your Estranged Child. Her book is a quality, comprehensive resource and guide for parents who are ready and wanting to heal this rift that’s come between themselves and their adult child. Throughout our conversation, Tina offers profound compassion for parents and children with this type of strained relationship, along with tips on how to heal. She explains why it’s essential to allow your child space to grow, why they may have felt the estrangement was necessary, and how parents can reflect on the reasons why this estrangement occurred.

 

About Tina Gilbertson:

Located in Denver, CO, Tina works as a psychotherapist, speaker, and author of the book Reconnecting with your Estranged Child. She specializes in estrangement counseling, particularly for parents rejected by adult children. In 2019, Tina co-founded the Reconnection Club, where she offers education, community, and support to help estranged parents repair their estranged relationships with their adult children.

 

Some Questions I Ask:

  • How were you drawn to this work? (2:43)
  • What does it mean to be estranged from your adult child? (6:38)
  • How does estrangement happen? (13:40)
  • Could you talk about the significance of unmet shared needs between an estranged parent and child? (22:21)
  • What are the do’s and don’ts for a parent with a child who has asserted a no-contact relationship? (34:58)
  • How can an estranged parent approach a child that’s been alienated from them at a young age? (40:50)

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • What motivated Tina to write her book (2:10)
  • How parents still have power and influence within their relationships with their children. (5:58)
  • The various types of estrangement. (6:41)
  • What factors contribute to the estranged relationships between parents and children. (13:47)
  • How estrangement functions as an act of self-preservation. (20:31)
  • How finding self-compassion enables acceptance of others. (26:03)
  • Why contact is not the solution to estrangement. (27:36)
  • How parents can sit with and move through feelings of abandonment, panic, and desperation after a child goes no-contact. (35:14)

 

Connect with Tina Gilbertson:

Website

Reconnecting with your Estranged Adult Child by Tina Gilbertson

Reconnection Club Website

The Reconnection Club Podcast

Jul 6, 2020

"I value color as a way to communicate and as a way to share ideas and be able to feel movement of emotion and energy in your body."

 

One of the biggest hurdles of being a parent is helping our kids fall asleep at night.

 

As parents, it’s necessary to find the right tools to help kids learn to relax, process, and be with their big feelings – and many parents are still learning these skills as well.

 

On this episode, I talk with Susanne Benton, who has this seemingly magical ability to help kids relax and fall asleep. She creates bedtime meditations for kids on Insight Timer, and seamlessly weaves in magic, beauty, and wonder into the stories she tells. Susanne shares her behind-the-scenes process for writing these meditations for kids, how she comes up with the right stories, and why she emphasizes the importance of imagination and color.

 

About Susanne Benton:

Susanne is a mother, step-mother, and grandmother with a degree in Child and Family Studies from the University of Wisconsin Madison. She opened her own daycare called Magical Child Family Daycare, where her goal became to create an environment in which children felt welcomed, challenged, and supported in their unique growth. Susanne also developed a thriving practice as a massage therapist over the last 12 years.

 

Four years ago, Susanne combined her bodywork, mindfulness, and relaxation skills with her experiences with children and families, and with that began writing bedtime stories and recording bedtime meditations. She loves sharing resources for both parents and kids that make falling asleep easier each night.

 

Some Questions I Ask:

  • What drew you to begin creating the bedtime meditations for children? (8:47)
  • Can you share about why you emphasize colors in your meditations? (19:44)
  • How do you come up with the meditations? (25:51)
  • How do the elements within the meditations become tools for kids? (27:49)
  • What do you love most about creating meditations? (33:13)

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Why developing skills to balance intense, accelerated learning with relaxation is so beneficial for children. (5:56)
  • How Susanne incorporates imagination and colors into her meditations. (10:38)
  • How parents can supply their children with soothing and skills to manage trauma and fear. (16:06)
  • What kids like about their custom meditations. (25:03)
  • How to make bedtime a smoother process. (35:09)

 

Connect with Susanne Benton:

Insight Timer

Website

Facebook

Instagram

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